Top Five Songs NOT to Play at a Singles Event

Recently my girls and I went to a singles event. We were laughing and joking when a familiar song started to play. We looked around for a minutes thinking to our selves, “ Am I the only one who thinks this is kind of out of place?”  Music can be a great tool. It can get the party started or start up conversations. It can also bring back memories that some of us would rather put behind us while were trying to mix and mingle. So, I decided to come up with MY top five song choices to not play at a singles event.

1.) Alicia Keys, You Don't Know My Name. This was the song that was playing. Somewhere a woman was standing up against the wall starring at her crush while lip singing the lyrics. “ You don’t know my name….(round and round and round we go. Will you ever know).” Just sad……

2.)Oran “Juice” Jones, The Rain.  If you want to see an angry brotha, play this song. Watch what happens. Look around the room. You see that brother in the corner with the Stevie J facial expression? Whatever you do, give him 50 feet..PLEASE!

3.)Erykah Badu, Call Tyrone. This song will have sistas snapping fingers, giving daps, and looking at men crazy the rest of the night. DJ, don’t put the fellas through this.

4.) Beyonce, Me, Myself, and I. If you know me, you know I LOVE Beyonce. BUT, this song makes me want to light up a New Port and drink some Coke and Crown. I don’t even smoke OR drink hard liquor! Something about this song just makes me say forget it, I’m doing me….But then I come to my senses.

5.) Maxwell, This Woman’s Work. When I hear this song, a single tear rolls down my cheek. I know what your thinking. This is a great song. YES it is, BUT every body thinks they can sing the high notes!  Try listening to ten brothas (that’s the amount of them at the event) hit that high note. I cant. Just, no.

Honorable Mentions; Anything by H-Town. If your wondering why, you can get a clue from the names of the songs. Anything by R.Kelly EXCEPT for Step in the Name of Love. I’ve been asked to dance a few times off that joint.

What song or songs would be on your list? Why? Lets discuss!

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I’m to Blessed to Act Like I’m Not

Hello everyone. I wanted to share some encouraging words with you today. So many times we get so caught up in anger and in frustration, that we can’t see the blessing that is right in front of us.

  ^{“Colossians 3:23} Whatever you do, work at it with all your heart, as working for the Lord, not for human masters.” NIV 
 When I first moved to Plano I was making $12.50 at the local Home Depot. Yes, you read that right, $12.50. I asked God to bless me with a better paying job that allowed me to be off on the weekend so I could serve more in ministry. Don’t you just love new faith? I not only believed God would do it, I believed He would take care of every need until it came to fruition. One month after I moved to Plano  I interviewed with another company. Three days later I got the job. I did a praise dance and a shout. I said thank you God at least a  hundred times.

  Fast  forward five months later. The same girl who prayed to God; the same same girl who did a praise dance and said thank you Lord; was the same girl who was complaining about the very blessing she asked for. I felt as though I was stuck on the phone being griped at by customers all day. I was angry that they were yelling at me and cussing me out for eight hours a day. I was really mad when I didn’t get an hour lunch because we were too busy. And, I had the complete nerve to be mad when I had to work over time.

  Wow! I wasn’t working for the Lord. I was working to get by. Which ,in hind sight, didn’t make much sense. I’m supposed to be light, but when customers called in all they heard was an attitude. As soon as I walked through those double doors my lamp was turned completely off. One day, someone read the verse above at church. You know how when your convicted about something it stays on your mind all day? I had to make a decision. Was I going to be miserable or was I going to work like I was working for the Lord?

  I realized someone out there was without a job. Someone out there wanted the boss that I couldn’t stand. Someone out there would take the $12.50 that I felt was not enough for me. So, the next time your angry at your boss or you have to work overtime, think about this verse.   Remember, the company you work for does not provide for you. They didn’t give you breath and blessings that you didn’t deserve. Praise God by working like your working for Him. Be blessed!


Blogging While Single and Over 30 was created for women AND men who are much more than single. We will discuss relationships, hair, cooking, kids, politics and much more. If you have any questions or ideas for post, feel free to send me an email at bloggingwhilesingle@gmail.com. Be blessed!

My Pre Shampoo Experience

I read about 3-4 hair blogs a day. I also subscribe to a ton of instagram  and face book pages that are in relation to hair. I’ve noticed that everyone of them, relaxed and natural, talk about the pre poo.

What is pre poo? (Short for pre shampoo). Its when you apply conditioner or oil or both to your hair and scalp before shampooing to relieve stress from the wash. I must admit, I was skeptical at first. Wouldn't it just be washed out when I shampooed my hair? I’m glad my skepticism didn’t keep me from trying it.

I’m not a product junkie so I barely have products to choose from. Two things I do keep around are oils and  conditioner. I used some random Shea Butter conditioner and  Doo Grow stimulating growth oil. My scalp is ridiculously dry so I decided to use oil as well as conditioner. I mixed the two together and spread it evenly through out my hair. Also, I put additional oil on my scalp. I let this sit for 20 minutes. I shampooed my hair and towel dried. I must say, I’m a believer.  

PROS: My hair was softer than its ever been after a wash. I was able to comb through it with minimal hair loss. I WAS ABLE TO COMB THROUGH IT! My hair was shiny but not greasy or weighed down. My hair felt cleaner. My curl definition was on point. Did I mention I could comb through it?

CONS: Ain’t nobody got time fo that! Goodness! 20 extra minutes on top of what it already takes. But, it was worth it. I didn’t have deep condition for 15 minutes or take ten extra minutes combing it out.

I will for sure be adding this to my non existent hair routine. That’s right. I am the only natural person I know that does not have a routine. I don’t wrap my hair at night unless I twist it or wash it that night. I don’t twist my hair every night or re twist if I so happened to do a twist out. I don’t have a wash routine either. Maybe I will put myself on a hair regimen. Couldn’t hurt.

So,  what say you? Have you pre shampooed? If so, what do use and what’s your normal hair routine? Let’s discuss!

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“SINGLE”

1:not married 2: unaccompanied by others 3a: consisting of having only one part, feature, or portion.

And that my friends, is Webster's definition of single.  Yes its true that I’m not married. “Having only one part, feature, or portion.” That's the part that gets me. I've always had the idea that I had to be whole. Truth be told, I still believe that. Another truth be told, sometimes I don't feel so whole. But that's another post for another day...

Thank goodness for Urban Dictionary!
1. When you are currently not in a relationship with a significant other…

That's more like it. To be fair, I’m sure Webster was referring to a thing as well as a person. The problem is, some of us single women over 30, me included, refer to ourselves the same way Webster has described us. Having only one part, feature, or portion. Often times we think of ourselves as not being whole without someone. I've felt this way many times.  I really need to change my mindset if I’m going to be content with being single. I have to decide what I want. Do I want to be an Urban Dictionary single or do I want to be a Webster's single? 

I think the first step to recovery is admitting I have an issue. Hello. My name is Jessica and I’m a Webster's dictionary single.

What type of  “single” are you? Are you striving to move past that definition or are you happy just where you are? Feel free to discuss!

Blogging While Single and Over 30 was created for women AND men who are much more than single. We will discuss relationships, hair, cooking, kids, politics and much more. If you have any questions or ideas for post, feel free to send me an email at bloggingwhilesingle@gmail.com. Be blessed!