Monday, April 22, 2013

The Detached Libra

Hello everyone! Oh how I've missed my blog. Been dealing with some "situations" so I've been at a loss of words or dare I say it, DETACHED, this past week. I sat in front of my laptop twice with a zillion words in my head. Unfortunately, the words were not at my fingertips. I went through a break up a couple of weeks ago so I am feeling even more detached from everything and everybody. BUT, I'm also feeling a bit carefree and a bit jolly... Hmmmm, strange.

Their element is Air. Air signs can often seem detached, cold. and aloof. Air signs can often be kind, caring, loving towards others, open minded at accepting others for how they are, Original, value freedom- after all Air is space and air signs do require this. Air signs are the mind and the intellect. As most air signs, Libra is a great communicator and do indicate logic. As well as the positives to air signs and libra, there are negative attributes as well. Those who do know us well, can say sometimes we live in a fantasy world, which isn't always bad because we will come up with inventive ways to approach things or make things original, so to say we pull things out of thin air. Though our fantasy world can make us not realize the real world and can make us have trouble dealing with it. Air can be detached, from reality and other people's feelings, and can come off as emotionless. As air does care for others and enjoys being around other people and helping those out in need, and fixing a problem where we can analyze the situation, we can appear foggy and musty when we are detached. Read more here!

 The Libra is known for being detached. We are nice at first but then once you try to build a relationship with us (friendship) we can seem a little off putting or stuck up.   Not the case. For me the problem comes after the initial meeting. It's weird for me to get to know new people. I feel somewhat awkward. I think being detached is a way of putting up a guard or a diversion. I once had a friend who told me she tried to be my friend for a while. I also had someone I serve in ministry with tell me that he thought I was kinda stuck up but once he got to know he thought differently. 

I think I can be quiet at times around people I don't know. I make judgments in my head lol. I know, so wrong. This is how my bubble looks: "Something about her I don't like. Why is she asking me so many questions? Why does she want my number? I don't have room in my circle!" Those are my exact thoughts most of the time. For some reason (childhood probably) I think someone always has a motive. Working on that one...

I also become detached when emotional situations arise. When I see someone in a bad situation or feel soryy for someone. Example: I was at Disney World and seen a kid in a wheelchair while the other kids were running around. That kid was on my mind for atleast an hour. Also, I'm in a position where people tell me problems all the time. I feel like I detach myself so that I won't put myself in the situation or get to involved with it. I'm a fixer so when someone comes to me with a problem I try to fix it or give them suggestions on how to fix it. I had to learn that some people want to tell you there issues but want you to shut up and not give advice or try to fix it. This is hard for me because when I have an issue I automatically put my thinking cap on to figure out a way to solve it or dissolve it. I probably need to be sitting on someones couch.

And yes! I do live in a fantasy world sometimes. I talk to myself and think of stuff in my head that is ridiculous. That's why I love being at home by myself. I get to have so many ideas! Which brings me to the next installment of my Libra series. I'm an introvert acting as an extrovert. No worries! We will get to the positive......Until next time...................

7 comments:

  1. I found your blog on Aloha Friday and just started following on GFC. Sorry to hear about your break up :( I did kind of laugh at your bubble, though. I'm not a Libra and I still have that kind of internal conversations when I meet new people. A lot of people really do have ulterior motives so I kind of feel like it's justified...

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    1. Thanks for stopping by! Don't be sorry. I'm happy and getting back to being me. I will go over and check out blog. Have a wonderful weekend!

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  2. My apologies for your breakup the comfort is knowing theres always another unexpectedly waiting at your door hope you continue to blog really nice posts!

    All in a Soiree
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    1. Thank you Charmaine! I'm good though. Been taking time to get to know me again. Have a blessed weekend!

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  3. I couldn't wait to get the time to come over and comment on this!! I too am sorry that you've been going through so much. This life thang ain't no joke! I don't want to type a book, but I love seeing things like this about Libras and it great when it actually applies to me.

    I have no problems at all with communicating. I love being able to express myself and express my feelings freely...and will do it all day if you let me. I'm also extremely caring and loving...and I can be a bit emotional at times...BUT only with people I truly care about. I have a circle and it's very hard to get inside of it. I keep people at a distance b/c people are crazy. Like you, whenever I meet new people, I watch. I have also been told by people that they thought I was stuck up or mean, but now they all love me to pieces! I just minimally interact with people until I can get a good feel for who they truly are and once I get that figured out, I'll handle them accordingly!

    I'm a counselor. A part of me being a good counselor has to do with the fact that I can accept people for who they are and where they're at. A lot of times people know they can come to me for help or advice or to just listen, because they know I won't be judging of whatever it is they have to say. Life happens...who am I to judge, right?! On top of that, I'm a substance abuse counselor...so at this point in my career, I've seen and heard some very interesting things...so nothing really surprises me.

    So, this is probably more of a pamphlet instead of a book, so I accomplished my goal. It's just so exciting to know there's someone out there so similar to me!

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    1. LOL Mionna, you are so funny! A pamphlet. I'm with you on the emotional thing. If I care about you I get soooo emotional lol. It's weird when I get total strangers come to me for advice. Maybe us Libra's have that look about us. Thanks for you input. I enjoy comments. I also enjoy knowing that someone is like me! Have a great weekend chica!

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  4. Sigh this is me all over. #LibraLife

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