Monday, January 14, 2013

Top Five: Lessons I Learned In My Twenties

Hello everyone and welcome to another edition of top five. I haven't done a top five in a while. I thought this would be an easy topic but when I actually started writing it I realized I learned a ton of lessons in my twenties! My twenties were full of foolishness and good times. It was also filled with confusion and being lost. Some lessons were pretty easy to learn and some I made twice and learned once lol!

1. Time does not heal all wounds. You have to make the first step towards the healing process. People kill me when they say give it time. I even say it as a reflex when trying to comfort someone. Until your willing to deal with whatever the problem is, it will boil inside you until it has no choice but to boil over unto every aspect of your life.

2. Clothes that fit make you look smaller. If your clothes are to tight they make you look bigger. Muffin top because of your jeans being to tight is not cute. Lesson more than learned!

3. I need my friends. Ladies, have you ever met a guy and made him your whole world? Did you stop calling your friends and gave him your full attention only to have him leave you high and dry? Did your friends give you the stank eye when you came crawling back? They should have.  Listen, I get it. you want your man to feel like your all in. BUT, you need your own life. Your own identity. Don't be that woman who wakes up ten years later saying she lost herself in her man and her kids. If he doesn't want you to have friends or time to yourself, HE'S CRAZY! RED FLAG, RED FLAG!Who wants to be around someone 24/7???!!! Lesson learned and only took one time.

4. Love does not hurt! This was one of my hardest lessons to learn. I have played the fool and been abused a time or two. I think that's why I don't question why some women stay in an abusive relationship. It's hard to break free from someone you love more than anything. It's hard to feel like your worth it when you think your not. Its hard to let go of whats familiar and break free into the great unknown. It's hard to feel like you failed at something. Last but not least, its embarrassing to admit so you just stay and take it. If you have a daughter, go hug her right now. After you've loved on her, please return to reading!

5. Sex does not equate to love! BOOM! I think most young girls I meet have this issue. They think he must love me because he said it and the next step is sex. Not that simple. Sex has a toll on our bodies. Your connected with that person physically and emotionally. Lesson learned and it took a couple of lessons BUT I got it now lol!


What lessons did you learn or are you learning in your twenties? Let's discuss! Until next time....................

49 comments:

  1. Love these lessons!!! I have had to learn them hard way a few times

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    1. Thanks for stopping by Toya. So glad we made it through lol!

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  2. Great points! I learned to keep my priorities in line... God first, family second, career third!

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    1. Tiffany, that's the most important lesson anyone can learn! Thanks for stopping by.

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  3. Following you back! Thanks for stopping by my blog. Yes I agree with your 5 lessons. I have experienced them all, then got older and wiser :) My dad used to always say, if you have to ask for help to put on your clothes or lie down on your bed to button your clothes...it does NOT fit! Following back too :)

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    1. Thank you and I can't wait to read more! Peace and blessings!

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  4. following you via email from the Nice to Meet You hop! plz follow me back..
    http://fashionwithfitness.blogspot.com/

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    1. Thanks! I will be sure to stop by! Peace and blessings!

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  5. Awe, I love the concept of this blog! I'm still in my twenties, but I totally agree w/ you with all your 5 points. We all seem to learn the hard way, but it's okay because we're all in it together :)

    Found ya through the blog hop and I'm following you now :)
    <3, Mel
    beautytribune.com

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    1. Thanks Mel! I will be sure to follow back and check out your blog!

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  6. Great top 5 lessons! I'm in my twenties and I'm still learning. (I mean, we never stop learning, right?) There's a lesson that I want to share: if you are studying or working in something you love, don't stop doing it because your parents or any other person want you to do/or study another thing. Is not something I'm experiencing right now but I thought of sharing it with your lesson #3.
    Thanks for stopping by my blog and for linking up to Nice to Meet You {Blog Hop} :) Hope to see you linking up again next week! I'm following you back :)

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    1. That's a great lesson Mariely! Thanks for sharing and stopping by!

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  7. Wow! Such a great post! You're an amazing writer. I loved the one about loving our friends and not being incapsulated by our significant other.

    I can't remember what I learnt in my twenties, but I can tell you what m learning now, in my thirties, and it is to ALWAYS trust my instincts. Listen to that inner voice.

    Thanks for sharing, might I suggest a book that changed my life: God Never Blinks by Regina Brett... If you haven't read it, please check it out.

    Xoxo (I hope there's no captcha girl! It would appear I am a robot as I can never pass them! Lol )

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    1. Well look at that, I may be human after all! ;)

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    2. Thanks lovely! I put the book on my list. I might start a book club. Not sure yet. Just the title draws me in! You are SOOOO right about trusting our instincts. They are there for a reason!

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  8. I will try to remember these things while I'm in my 20s!

    Eve
    lovealwayseve.blogspot.com

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    1. Thanks Eve for dropping by. Can't wait to see what your blog has in store!

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  9. Hello!

    I'm your newest follower from the "Nice To Meet You" Blog Hop!

    I love #2! I recently found this out. I may have been in a bit of denial, lol.

    See ya around!
    Allison
    Finding My Happy

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    1. LOL! All that matters is that you know now lol. Thanks for stopping by! I will be sure to check out your blog.

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  10. beautiful blog!

    welcome :)

    http://anngrigorieva.blogspot.ru/

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    1. Thanks Ann! I will be stopping by to check yours out!

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  11. i enjoy your lessons so much! )

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  12. Mmmm many lessons learned, and many more to learn yet!
    Dalayna

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  13. #2 is the story of my life lately!

    Stopping by from the blog hop!

    Trish @ Tales from ...

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  14. Hi! Stopping by from blog hop. Thanks for visiting me at Fiveorite Things! Am now following you and will visit again soon. This is a great Top 5! So true...

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    1. Thanks Nicki! Glad we could connect! Peace and blessings!

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  15. Hi, you have said SO much, these are feelings that so any women have, and way beyond 30! I found you at the blog hop and looking to connect, my blog is on healthy living,something for everyone.
    http://fitandbeyond40.com

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    1. Thank you so much for stopping by Margaret! Checking out your blog. Peace and blessings!

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  16. .Hi Jessica, I'm stopping by from the blog hop! I've enjoyed browsing through your blog! Keep doing what you're doing! I look forward to following! Take care!
    -Natasha @ Lovely You

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    1. Thank you Natasha. I love your blog and can't wait to read more. Peace and blessings!

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  17. I'm in my late twenties now, and I've grown into a different person from my 21 year old self! I love your number 4 & 5! My late twenties are much easier than my early twenties.

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    1. YES! Late twenties I was like "I got this!" LOL, then came 30! Thanks for stopping by!

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  18. Great post that I think everyone should read!!!!

    I have 2 younger sisters and I worry about them constantly when it comes to boys etc.

    Also yes-always make time for your friends. I've been the girl who makes their BF their whole world.. but you need that girl time too. :)

    New follower from the Friday blog hop!

    Jessica
    www.littlemapleleaf.blogspot.com

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    1. Hello Jessica! Thanks for linking up! Keep encouraging your sister in the right direction. They might not get it now but they will one day! Thanks for linking up.

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  19. Lovely blog and great post. It is definitely great because I can relate but mostly because I have learned my lesson and have proudly moved on (finally). Being in my early thirties, I often look back at those years, smile, then laugh, but happy to be where I am now. I'm stopping by from the Thursday blog hop and I'm happy I did. Please visit me if/when you get a chance!

    Carica
    properhoney.com

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    1. Thanks Carica! Sometimes all you can do is laugh! Thanks for linking up! I will be sure to swing by!

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  20. Stumbled over here to your blog and love this post. I just hit 30 in 2012 and I definitely have learned each of those lessons and still scraping the repercussions out of my life. Read down a few posts and love your blog. Definitely have a new follower here. I am glad I stopped by!

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    1. Thank you Jasmine! About to hop over to your blog now! I thought 30 was not going to be as fun as it is. But I must say, I'm having a great time!

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  21. I felt like it took me a long time, but I learned these things also. Right now i'm at that point where i'm wearing clothes that fit. I had been squeezing in things and didn't realize how awful it can look at times!
    http://www.navywif33.com

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    1. NavyWife, we've all been there at some point. Thanks for stopping by!

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  22. I'm going to be 35 this year and while in my 20s I think my biggest lesson was that it takes time to get to know yourself, what you like, who you are, and where you want to be. I am NOT where I thought I'd be when I left college. And that's okay because I've grown and I'm not that person anymore.

    Great blog...found you via Aloha Friday Blog Hop! Glad to meet ya!

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    1. Great lesson to learn! I am not the person I thought I would be also. Which, in hind sight, is a good thing lol! Thanks for linking up!

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  23. Thanks so much for posting. No matter how old you are, you can still learn something to make you better. Some of us are still learning these lessons past our 20s
    www.jadeblyssjourney.blogspot.com

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    1. We each have our own journeys. I'm sure you will be a better student at life than I lol! Thanks for linking up!

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  24. Love this! Thanks for sharing and I so agree with needing your friends! I have TOO many girlfriends like that lol

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    1. Thank Jeneille! And thanks for stopping by. Dontcha just hate that?!

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