Monday, December 31, 2012

No Resolutions! Just do better....

Hello all! For the past two New years I've told myself to just do better. I never stick to resolutions. I think, for me, I raise the bar to high. I know I'm a baby step type of person so it defeats the purpose to leap. Here are my list of things I really need to "Do Better" at this up coming year. Some things I have already started working on. Why wait, right? Right!

1. Finances. I need to do a better job at saving and actually follow a budget that I put in place. This means no eating out as much and not as much shopping. I have already started on not eating out as much. I tend to cook during the week now since I live a more healthy lifestyle. As for shopping...... Lets just say I got my work cut out for me.

2.Spend more time with God. This is definitely something I didn't get right this year. I was worse than the year before! My plan of action is to have a solid devotion time. It may not be every day but at least four times a week.

3. Giving and tithing. I have always struggled with this. My goal by July is to start giving 10% of my gross. I know, I know, that's what I'm supposed to be doing now. The thing that's really hard for me is giving my time. If someone ask me to contribute to a cause or event I pull out my wallet. I almost never volunteer my time or services. I must "Do Better" at this. I could really be using my gifts and talents to help someone in need of them. This brings me to my next point................

4. Use my gifts and talents more. I should be writing more. I'm pretty good at writing lyrics and I'm also great at writing poetry. I have been working on a book for the last seven years. I have trashed it numerous times because I wait so long to work on it. When I finally do get to it, I've grown so much that I feel the need to change things around or start all over. I also need to network more and get better at it.

5. Be more intentional and focused. I'm not very intentional. Meaning, I don't reach out much or try to cultivate new relationships unless I have to or unless they fall in my lap. My theory is my circle is big enough. At times its to crowded and over whelming.  This should not be my outlook, EVER. For one, I invest in some relationships that I shouldn't and spend time trying to make friendships work that really won't. I have already started working on this. I simply stopped reaching out to people who really don't reach out to me unless something is needed. We can still be cool. I just feel like my energy is better directed at other people and things.

6. Be a better friend. Don't get me wrong. I think I'm a good friend but I could use a little work. I have a tendency to be in my own little world at times and not really focused on what people are saying to me. I also rush people to get to the point. I absolutely hate when people tell me to much back ground when explaining something. The whole time I'm like "Get to the point!" Yes, I've said that before.  When I'm not being rude, I act like I'm listening and nod my head while I'm making a grocery list or coming up with something clever to say. I have slight ADD so it's hard for me to focus on what people are saying if it takes them to long to spit it out. Not an excuse just another "Do Better" moment.

7. Spend more time with my family. My real family. This is hard for me. Sure my sister is my best friend but I'm not really that close to the rest of my family like I should be. When I moved to Dallas I came across so many people that treated me life family only better. They prayed for me and encouraged me. For the first time I felt really loved and understood. It made me not have to deal with real issues and generational curses I was dealing with (and still dealing with) from my real family. I also have a God Mother and sister that I really need to spend more time with as well as a sister and cousins, aunts, and uncles from my biological father side that I need to put more if an effort into.

Believe it or not, this is not my whole "Do Better" list. Baby steps! What are you going to "Do Better" this year? Until next time.............................................


14 comments:

  1. Great list! Wishing you a wonderful beginning into the new year!

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  2. Thanks for stopping by Michelle! I will be sure to stop by! Happy New Year!

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  3. I don't really make resolutions I just try to be the best me as possible. I totally agree with everything you said. It's all about the baby steps!

    I hope you're having a great week and a Happy New Year!

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  4. Those are all wonderful things you listed and I am on board with all of them - and Yeah, I dont make resolutions, but I do try to get better with time in certain areas. I know for me, I said I absoultely have to do better with your #1 on the list....I am just so bad with that - but hey.

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    1. Thanks for stopping by! Yes, it takes practice. Hopefully I will master my finances by the end of the year.

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  5. That's a great list! I like the "Just Do Better" attitude instead of resolutions! I found you from the Aloha Friday Blog Hop!

    Eve
    lovealwayseve.blogspot.com

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    1. Thanks for stopping by! I will be sure to swing through and follow back!

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  6. I love your list and I love your blog!
    I just found it at the aloha friday blog hop.

    Jay
    youngmumsguidetosurvival.blogspot.com.au

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    1. Thank you! I will be sure to check out your blog and follow back!

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  7. Great blog resolve to do better daily to be the best you. Have you ever done a vision board? Its an awesome visual remainder of the things you desire to do. Really aligns with Habakkuk 2.

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    1. On my birthday, why did I buy the cardboard and collect magazines and not do it??? I was supposed to do it for a year worth of visions. I got to do betta! And I really love that verse! Thanks!

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  8. Okay, so it's like you read my mind and then sat down and wrote this list out. I can relate to each and every one of your "Do Better" Items. Good luck and God Bless!

    xoxo
    Maya D

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