Hello everyone! I really haven't written anything on relationships since
January ..... And by all means, I'm not a relationship expert (hence the 0 kids and 0 husbands) lol. I do feel, however, that I've dodged some bullets and recovered well from heart break and lackluster relationships. This fact does not make me an expert but it makes for great spoken word, possible Snapped episodes, poems, and blog post!
Recently I've noticed a trend in the media and day to day lives. Which makes me ask this very important question. What does single until married and married until divorced mean to us these days? Instead of giving you my opinion; I went to Facebook and messaged a few friends (married and single) for a perspective other than mine. Please feel free to discuss how you feel in the comment section. I will answer and discuss with you!
Married Woman: The first thing that comes to my mind is people are considered single if they are not married even if they do have a boyfriend because nowhere on paper does it say check if u have a boyfriend. No its check if your married and being married til your divorce to me means that of course if your married and separate then your still considered married. You cannot go out or I should say you should not date being separated. That's a time to get you together and decide on what you wanna do. If its divorce then that's what it is
Single Woman: Single until marriage: Living, budgeting, planning your life based on your needs and seeking out inner peace, connecting with yourself. Identifying your strengths and weaknesses all in an effort to prepare you for sharing ALL of you with a life partner.Married until divorced: The first thought I get is two people that DIDN'T fulfill all their self-help or developmental needs in their single state. People who haven't analyzed, connected, embraced unconditional love for themselves will never be able share that with a spouse, which if not, will ultimately lead to "the.forbidden" ....DIVORCE..
Single Woman: Seems pretty accurate to me. If I'm not married, I'm single, even if we've been together forever. I'm not a believer in the "wifey" thing. As far as married until divorced, I agree with that as well. I will not knowingly date someone that is married, even if they are separated. To me, that man is still someone's husband.
Single Woman: Looking at this phrase I think it's about a lack of contentment. It's like saying "I'm single but I do not want to be" or "I'm married (for now at least)".
Married Woman: Here's my take on it...I believe that you are single until you are married and if you are married then that status stays the same until you are divorced. The titles like, boyfriend, girlfriend, boo thang, wifey, hubby are all just that...titles. The context of the relationship comes when you stand before God and make it legal. I believe that Single is a state of being that one should grow to know and love, for it is holistically you and that is a gift to share it with someone whether it is just a moment or your life. I also believe that once one embarks on the journey of marriage then you are legally bound to that until a divorce is final.
Single Woman: Single until married sounds like you are on a mission to get married. To me it says unless you know you want to get married then we aren't dating with a purpose and therefore I am single but hanging out with you. Married until divorced sounds like you are preparing for the worse to get divorced. Words have power why even say married until divorced focus on making the blessed union last forever not in the back of your mind planning to be divorced. These are just my thoughts of course people can beg to differ with me.
As you can see, some opinions differ and I LOVE it! What's your take on this bold statement? Lets discuss! Until next time...............................